I finally managed to successfully apply for a Visa for India today, after being sent away last week for being stupid. That stupidity involved arriving at an embassy to apply for a mucho important legal document sans photos, copy of ID, copy of air ticket and proof of residential address in SA.
I know, I know, you need not smirk and snigger so loudly.
Annnnyway, as I furiously completed the Visa application form by pressing on my sister’s back as she urged me to hurry up, I noticed that item three to be completed demanded the name of my father/husband.
Why it might be of interest to Indian authorities that I have no husband and that my father has not been alive for almost eight years is beyond me. Am I more legitimate if I have a father and/or husband who can vouch for me? Is it not absolutely bloody ridiculous that I am a self-sufficient, reliable, independent woman who is *choosing* to travel to India, where I will spend highly valued tourist Rupees, and yet despite this, must be asked about my father and husband, and not my mother, sister or wife, if that were the case?
I am interested to hear if India would deny Visas to men who write down the name of their husbands. Probably would. That’s why I wrote down my dad’s name instead of “No, I won’t fucking write down the name of a man who can ‘look after’ me, you arrogant, sexist fucks’.